Asking For Advice Is Keeping You Unsuccessful (Here's Why)

How Do I Start?

00:00how do I start a business how do I start talking to people how do I start pursuing my goals by starting advice is not starting asking for advice is making you stupid most people ask for advice because they fear the embarrassment and failure that everyone else went through to achieve their goals now don't get me wrong advice is not always a bad thing but if the 99 of people that are unsuccessful ask for 99 of the advice maybe there is a lesson there that's why there are books upon books on how to start a business or how to get six-pack abs and 99 of people still don't have

00:38those things and 99 of the questions that people ask are so vague that it is literally impossible to answer it's just a waste of time to ask the question in the first place because it's like ah yes let me write four books and create a hundred YouTube videos on the subject so you can completely understand it to the point where you can avoid any and all trial and error and failure that I went through in order to get what you want write your own book live your own life stop sitting around doing things that don't result in experience boosts you will never get a truly actionable answer

01:11by Outsourcing your entire Learning Journey out of fear of that Journey the problem is a lack of understanding people don't understand how to learn they've never sat down and contemplated what the learning process looks like and most people haven't asked for advice on how to learn so my point is that people are asking the wrong questions from the start when they approach a new goal they don't have the learning process framing their decisions step one is to have a conscious meaningful goal step two is to start forming the habits that allow that goal to be achieved step three is to

01:44manage the pain and emotions that come with identity change step four is to program your mind with information relevant to that goal step five is to experiment with different techniques step six is to seek technical advice when you encounter problems along the way and when you get to that last part part advice is only as good as it is specific to your situation books podcasts articles and social media content have great advice but only point zero zero one percent of it applies to the exact situation you are in the millions of bits of information you can perceive at this very moment of your

02:17life will be vastly different in the next Second and completely different from anyone else's experiences and interpretation of that experience only once you are in a state of pain struggle or challenge can you receive the Insight necessary to transcend to the next level there is a process to receiving the best advice that way you don't get mentally overweight with useless knowledge so let's break down identity change self-experimentation and how to ask for the best advice so that you can actually get results most people don't need more

You Don’t Need More Advice, You Need To Change Who You Are

02:48advice they need powerful ideas to shape their world view and decision making that way they can make better choices figure it out for themselves and reap the dopamine that comes from trial and error the reason you have haven't achieved a goal is because you aren't the person that would have achieved that goal every new goal you set is like throwing an anchor into the unknown every new goal you set Demands a new world view specific skills and beliefs that form who you are like a video game there's a reason you aren't level 100 you lack the character development that turns you into a level 100.

03:19in video games risks aren't real in real life risks are real but they're often over conflated with thought all change requires a change in identity you can't just ask for advice and expect it to give you the experience necessary to reach the level of the goal you've set for yourself and when was the last time that you actually took the advice that you asked for seriously and out of all of the advice that you've gotten and not necessarily asked for how much have you actually listened to because technically every single thing you read is advice there's an underlying lesson behind it

03:55but how many things did you learn today how many lessons did you actually integrate into your B being today most advice isn't applicable to your current level of goals and understanding a level 100 is going to tell you something that makes sense to them but not to a level 10.

04:09people don't realize that the difference in experience is exponential in a game each higher level requires more experience getting from Level 10 to 11 may require 300 experience points getting from level 99 to 100 would require a hundred times that amount as a beginner you don't have to change too much you can change a few habits set aside an hour a day and you can replace your income within a year ish after that the real self-development Journey Begins progress starts to slow down like the Newbie gains phenomenon in the gym you gain strength and muscle rapidly for

04:44like the first year and then it starts to become a slow and painful grind and if you don't back that Pursuit with a philosophical sense of Mastery and meaning then you're not going to stick it out if your identity is not patient focused on the long term risk tolerant and a lover of failure you will lose the

Programming Your Worldview

05:03first step to changing who you are is programming your world view your world view influences the openness of your perspective the openness of your perspective influences your perception of situations your perception of situations influences the decisions you make the decisions you make influence how you act your actions form an information feedback loop that programs your identity or sense of self your identity shapes your worldview and your worldview shapes your identity so how do you begin to change who you are by treating self-education and skill acquisition as a part of everyday life a

05:37necessity because it baffles me that so few people actually do this they want to become a better person they want to achieve great things they want to be at peace but they don't realize that their ability to maneuver toward these desirable outcomes comes from having the skill to do so skill is where the Mind meets life skill is cultivated through education and practice the difference between where you are and what you want is skill not belief not knowledge not environment not socioeconomic status not your upbringing all of those are variables powerful ones that are trumped

06:09by skill it all starts by programming your mind with the right inputs swap mindless scrolling for intentional learning that they're the same thing just a different way of approaching it a different intention one has a goal one doesn't swap video games for building new projects so the same thing building projects is a video game in the real world and now I'm not telling you we'll talk about this in the next newsletter I'm not telling you to quit video games I'm telling you that you need a foundational habit of learning and execution in your life and if you don't

06:39have those things then you have no business doing other things if your daily life doesn't consist of the things that not only bring you peace and progress then just like what are you doing you're dead swap sleeping in for a morning walk with a podcast because that alone just filling your mind with this information that will expose you to new potentials for your life is just a very good thing to have it brings some clarity and vision into your mornings learning leads to awareness of opportunity awareness of opportunity creates motivation continuous learning

07:11every single day changes your decision making with time so the second step to

The Pain Of Identity Change

07:17changing who you are is understanding the pain of identity change changing who you are is like sculpting a work of art by the time you turn 18 you're like a giant Square slab of marble that looks feels and acts ugly the first decision is the most painful a commitment to change to pop an arm out of the marble against its will so you can start sculpting away but be careful if you strike too hard you may destroy the entire slab you must make small precise Taps to sculpt your ideal mental physique every situation that you go through in life presents a small tap that can be made you must approach

07:50situations consciously when you feel that Spike of anxiety because you're entering something that's unknown you have to pause and push through the pain is temporary now step 3 to changing who

Pain Is Pleasure, Death Gives Life

08:01you are is understanding that pain is rather enjoyable and that death gives life it allows life to happen I was listening to an older Frank Yang roof Talk video and he brought up an interesting way of looking at things where he's not saying that this is absolute truth this is just him like theorizing philosophizing and I thought it was really interesting where he said that he first said that Freud says that we have two drives we have the sex drive which is creation survival and extending our lives in The Matrix or the video game of life and then the Death Drive

08:37which is destruction or absolute Oneness or returning to Infinity we enjoy pain but many people hide from that and inflict more unbearable pain with surface level pleasurable activities that keep you comfortable so some seek out the good pain the one that brings the meaning and fulfillment or allowed that allows you to let a part of yourself die so that another part can grow so when you're in the gym people enjoy that pain when they are pushing through seeing that progress and it feels good because what you're doing is you're kind of tearing apart or destroying muscle cells so that new ones

09:12can grow or they can expand they can they can send on this like physical level here but again there's like mental bodybuilding where you are allowing a certain part of your identity to die so that a new one can spring up and emerge and try and send the old ones so that you have a higher more holistic self so the lesson is that you want to kind of curate an environment like the gym but in multiple areas of your life to generate suffering that leads to New Life and so this is also what like monks and Mystics are doing when they are trying to kill the ego or experience ego

09:46death is they are shedding layers of thought to the point where they are becoming more at one with what is or nothingness now we don't have to go too far down that rabbit hole because we're that that would change the topic entirely but I just thought it was interesting to think about that and to take that into account is that many people subject themselves to something that is much more painful because they are pursuing pleasure and those that pursue pain enjoy doing that so now we have understand that all change requires a change in identity now we need to understand the power of

10:18self-experimentation and how it is the only way to solve your problems for good

The Power Of Self-Experimentation (How To Solve Your Problems For Good)

10:22observation most smart people I know when they want to learn something immediately Google what they want and go down a rabbit hole everyone else asks for all the information to be given to them rarely get a complete answer and get distracted within five minutes that is a previous tweet of mine I just thought it was an interesting observation self-experimentation is the only way to solve your problems for good self-experimentation and self-reliance go hand in hand they feed into each other self-experimentation is how you avoid the dangerous nature of prescriptions and how-to advice here's a

10:52hypothetical problem not having enough money to do what you enjoy with your time so person a follows exactly what a money Guru says they start investing a few bucks here and there they play it safe with their stocks they downgrade their car so they don't have that monthly expense and person B they pull advice from multiple sources to make decisions for themselves they use how-to advice but only to discover are principles that can be integrated into the pursuit of their goals they study religiously but do not attach to business health or social ideologies that keep them stagnant eventually with

11:24education and effort it clicks and they know how to make it work I recently saw a post on Instagram that said something along the lines of how wealth generation is slow which I agree with but not as slow as they made it seem the post was about how every person that has become a millionaire under 30 either did it from an inheritance a high income or a large income event like crypto and the person that shared the post mentioned that they've been budgeting for so long they're like 35 they've been doing this for 10 years and they're only like halfway to a million and I say this for

11:58perspective in some cases I feel like it's inspiring like I was inspired by someone when I heard that they were doing the same thing as me and they hit their first 100K month and so that's kind of why I'm saying that this even though it feels uncomfortable to say it is that I became a liquid millionaire at 26 6 until I invested 50 of that into a new business and I've been I've generated 2.5 to 3.5 million as a one-person business and now I'm kind of evolving past that but the thing is is that like nobody could teach me to do this and another thing here is that when

12:29you read this advice again where it's like stop asking for advice the main lesson of this video is that when you read advice like this you're like oh okay all people under 30 only reached it because of this there's no new way that I can create there's no new path that I can forge by doing my own thing there's no amount of Education or skill that I can acquire that will allow me to surpass the average limits that people impose on themselves and that's exactly the thing is that you can create a new path there's so many technological advancements happening right now in this

13:03very moment that you're in such a beautiful place to actually start making progress and do what you want that wasn't a possibility a few years ago that's what I'm saying here is that the advice that that person gave about people under 30 only hitting a million dollars because of X Y and Z it's like yeah you may have been right 10 years ago but now there are many case studies arguing against that and that's exactly the thing is I can't I can't teach you the exact path because it's highly individual it's the scientific method it's trial error Discovery hypothesis

13:33iteration figuring it out for yourself just by making it a part of your lifestyle right people are like oh I'm gonna do this thing for a month and see if it works out no do it for your entire life and see if it works out and so I can't teach you the exact path but I can give you like The Meta structure and the systems and the principles for what will make it work and that's why I make these videos that's why I have two hour writer and digital economics in the description is because these are valuable things but what I'm saying the entire lesson behind this video is is

14:03that you need to take it on yourself to get results and pull from multiple perspectives and experiment with things until it works you can't just blindly trust me or anyone one else with your success that's why people go to school blindly trust the school and then end up in a life that they hate because they're the product of that entity they aren't a product of themselves they didn't create themselves so let's walk through steps or a system that allow you to achieve

Have A Conscious Goal

14:30any goal you want step one is to have a conscious goal goals provide a frame for your decision making and I don't want to hear the regurgitated systems are greater than goals advice that you got from James clear you don't have a system without a goal simple as that you need a goal that grows into a vision one that you keep top of mind so you can collect fuel to the motivation that it gives you you don't just feel Ultra motivated out of nowhere you sit with a goal experience life and generate reasons to achieve that goal through study and observation the more energy you invest

15:01in a goal through education and effort the stronger the gravity of that goal it begins to pull you toward it

Holistic Understanding

15:07effortlessly because the big picture is greater than the technical details this is like an operating principle for my life and I actually learned this from Leo gura with actualize.org please go watch his video 65 principles for the good life that is like I I watched that maybe five years ago and I've been watching it like every year since every single principle in that book is like not the book the video is like as you go through life and you revisit that video you're like wow like he was right the entire time you may not understand some of them at first but this principle big

15:40picture understanding is greater than technical details is so important and it's also saying that principles are greater than tactics but this does not eliminate the need for technical details and tactics right none of this stuff is black and white just like how systems don't remove the need for goals you will fail in business if you do not understand every moving piece of the business you are trying to build you will fail in Fitness if you don't have a holistic understanding of your body nutrition and training and if you don't understand the vast negative impacts of

16:09the environment modern foods and stress you will succumb to them awareness makes positive decision making much much easier if you don't have a big picture understanding of what you wish to achieve you become susceptible to ideologies that are by definition of an ideology untrue in a relative world you will fall for get rich quick schemes fad diets and strict advice just to start over from scratch when you realize they aren't sustainable when you approach a goal education and effort go hand in hand to create understanding so purchase General books listen to podcasts and

16:42follow social media accounts that dish out various perspectives pursue your goal with the time you have and Implement what you learn action solidifies true knowledge adjusts your decision making as you learn you will suck at first but that's the reality of

Experiment With Various Techniques

16:56any new Endeavor so step three is to experiment with various techniques because as you educate towards your goal right I'm talking your daily education habit and immersing yourself in the information that will allow you to acquire the knowledge to achieve a goal you will discover techniques to test in business this looks like writing advice lead generation advice best business models and anything else you can find with a quick Google search this is easily accessible information that anyone can and will find and try to do there's a lot of competition here and I

17:28wish I could give concrete advice with like explaining how to experiment with things but it's as simple as just experimenting with the things that you learn and trying them out when you learn something new and the dopamine increases and you're like oh wow that's actually really good advice I need to understand like I need to note this down and try it then actually try it and try to get results and once you do that enough with multiple techniques you start to create your own where if I go to the gym and I experiment with high intensity training like Mike menser high volume training

17:57maybe something completely different like CrossFit training and then running and from all of those I pull principles and do what I enjoy but I understand that I'm still making progress whether it be optimal or just enjoyable and I can start to craft something that really suits me and gets me the best results because it's sustainable and it's the same thing with me trying and failing at seven different business models I try all of these things I let truth blur in the middle of oh okay I need to connect these dots this is what helps make a business work and then eventually I

18:25create something that is very unique to me because I have this amalgamation of skills and interests and just who I am that allow me to build something relatively unique now step four is to

Systemize What Works

18:36systemize what works as you gain Clarity on what you want to do there will be levers that bring you the most results certain techniques will get you one percent better results than the next person that is your Edge because that one percent compounds I can write 30 minutes every morning and repurpose that content for all platforms this is what with time I realized is what brought in the followers and sales it's content for any business model not just like me talking to you now for the businesses that I'm going to start in the future and the businesses that I've had in the

19:06past I saw writing as a lever for traffic I saw a newsletter as an infinitely repurposable piece of content it took me a long time at first because I wasn't efficient I didn't have the skill under my belt so it took longer but now it takes me about 30 minutes to an hour in the morning that's what I do and the things that I do now won't look the same as a absolute beginner because on something like social media you're gonna have to reply like a madman to get eyes on your account and content practice writing content that gets shared and brings in followers build a

19:38product or service that solves your own problems and start to write longer form content to build trust and make sales because it's like I say oh I write 30 minutes every morning but if you don't have a product that allows you to do that then it doesn't really make sense you're gonna have to think big picture about your business and realize okay I'm gonna have to dedicate time to this and then once that's automated then I start dedicating time to this more and then eventually you create this system that allows you to sustain everything and so this video wasn't the most actionable

20:07but I feel like it's very important it's it's again to frame your decision making because for every piece of actionable advice the thing that people just drool over there's a hundred thousand people that don't see any results with it so stop masturbating mentally to all actionable advice and no fluff I'll give me the pure value don't leave the fluff in there just take it all out you don't understand what the fluff is and why it's important and you only perceive it as fluff is because well what one person perceives as fluff other person perceives as just pure value and so

20:39there's a reason behind that and you ignoring that or just being like Oh the fluff of this video or this book is so like why is it even there when that's what changes the lives don't be an advice junkie do what you want and get better at doing it through education and effort have a great rest of your week that's it to our writer if you want to learn high impact digital writing high value skill Link in the description digital economics if you want to productize yourself or turn yourself into a business again Link in the description uh seven days to genius ideas or the power planner both free

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