How To Make The Greatest Comeback Of Your Life

Why Most People Feel Lost

00:00Most people feel trapped. Their mind feels narrow and small. They can't escape the bubble of repetitive, negative thoughts. They lack clarity on what to do with their life. They don't know that one thing they want to commit to, because everyone in the self-help space yells at them to focus on one thing.

00:08But that completely misses the point. You don't focus on one thing. You focus on one mission, which requires you to learn many things. If you only focus on one thing. That's a surefire way to make yourself dependent on that thing, so that you can adapt and therefore you are replaceable.

00:32They have these random ambitions like gaining some followers on social media, starting some random business they found out about online trying to get a girl to in their loneliness, or any other thing they can latch onto for some sense of direction in their life.

00:45Those things in particular, like building a business, seem worthwhile because at least it's a different path from the dead end. One that our culture set them on. It's no wonder why most people fail to start. It's no wonder why they question everything they do.

00:59It's no wonder why most people struggle to achieve anything worthwhile, so they slowly start to accept that maybe they were meant to be average. Maybe you were meant to wake up, hits news four times. Walk the dog. Commute to work. Act like you enjoy the people there.

01:06Act like you care about your tasks. Commute home. Argue with your significant other. Watch TV, pass out, repeat. But there's something missing. You're trying to achieve freedom with a mind that was conditioned to be a servant. That's like trying to put a square block in a circular hole.

01:27It will never work. I want to start this section off with a sentence that I think will help.

How To Figure Out What You Want In Life

01:37The greatest skill you can develop is the ability to figure it out. That's what we need to talk about. We need to talk about how to figure out what you want out of life. And I can guarantee you right now that it doesn't come from someone else.

01:47Even me telling you what you should do. Why is that? It's because humans are natural generalists. Humans build tools to adapt to different niches and environments. Animals, on the other hand, like lions in the Sahara or polar bears in Alaska, wouldn't survive if they were thrown into a different niche, and this extends beyond physical tools.

02:12Humans invented mental tools like language, culture, religion, and stories so they could build, adapt, and acquire the skills and knowledge necessary to adapt to any niche. This is the ability that makes us unique. This is the ability that most people have lost.

02:24You see, as children we love to adventure. We love to discover. We love to figure things out. We make mistakes and learn from them. We touch fire, but then our learning stops being about real mistakes. It starts being about the traits our parents and teachers dislike in us, the traits they find annoying or uncivilized, the traits they don't think will lead to the version of success they were conditioned to believe is the only one true path, and they haven't opened their mind to the discovery that there is never only one true path.

02:58And what is that one true path that they want you to go on? It's the reason you feel so lost, overwhelmed, anxious, confused, and the rest. Your parents didn't teach you the singular trait that we are going to go over that allows you to figure out what you want.

03:15The world changes. Things change. You being conditioned with the mind of your parents, who lived in the last generation and probably didn't. If they aren't in the top 1%, then they probably don't have a mind that got even results in their generation.

03:30So you're listening to them tell you something that they think will bring success in their generation, not ours. So you feel lost and overwhelmed because you have no idea what to do. You're doing these things and you don't see what could come of them because you know better.

03:40You're the one that's learning things online. You're the one that's studying these different books and expanding your mind. And you're trying to battle against this 18 years of code being wired into your brain. And that's painful. The path that was supposed to be safe and secure was the complete opposite.

04:04You're plopped in front of a government trained expert, trained by government trained experts who are clearly not doing what you want to do in life for six hours each day, being told what to learn and how to act, while constantly being prodded toward the status symbol of the job in degree.

04:17And if you understand how the mind works, you understand that the goals that compose your worldview, which are fancy degrees and high paying jobs for most people, determine your mind's potential development and freedom. You were trained to be a specialist.

04:30You were solely focused on becoming a doctor, lawyer, artist, designer, engineer, or any other self-limiting identity that shaped what you were able to perceive and learn. You failed to develop agency. You failed to explore, make mistakes, discover and build by your own desire, not someone else's.

04:48You failed to develop the singular trait of a free individual because in the past, free men were just free. People in general were expected to act on their own interest. They were expected to do what they want. Explore new places. Navigate the world, discover new things.

05:02And in order to do that, they had to learn many things. If you're so focused on learning one skill, or getting one degree, or going to one job, by definition that you limit how much you can learn, you are only learning within this narrow little box, and your mind becomes that and you're not giving yourself enough credit for your ability to learn more things.

05:26You can actually do this, but you just spend your days doing anything aside from that because you only have one goal a specialist goal of getting the job. Getting the degree. Learning one skill. Learning one specific thing. When your mind can do so much more than that.

05:34I mean, your mind is able to render reality. It's the fastest supercomputer in the world. The thing with this is that the greatest designers, or the greatest artists or the greatest writers, were only great because they had experience in other domains, not because they went to some high status school in somehow studied the curriculum that everyone else is going through better than them.

06:03When you're studying the same thing as everyone else, you may be able to have different insights, but you're still studying the same things as everyone else. What makes a great designer is not how well they understand Photoshop. Think about that.

06:18A free individual is the opposite of a government trained specialist, or someone who is viewed as a machine for labor, a useful worker or a slave. The thing with this, when I mentioned this in previous videos is that, not everyone. I would say maybe 1% of people get upset because they close their mind.

06:37They they're proving my point when I say they are these things. But the thing here is that I'm no different. The people who don't react to the specific thing are any different. We're all slaves in our own regard. It's not physical. It's mental because we're learning to navigate this world.

06:53The only thing that I'm trying to do, I'm not trying to make you feel bad. You are making yourself feel bad and reacting because of it, because of how you perceive what I'm saying right now, when that's not the intention at all. My intention is to make you aware of something so you can improve your life, and if you see it any different from that, then that's going to be difficult to overcome.

07:16Okay, so I danced around the point a bit in how to figure out what you want out of life, but it's absolutely necessary that you have awareness on what you don't want out of life. I'm digging deep. I'm making I'm exaggerating the point. I'm saying you're a slave and you're all these other things.

07:29When I know you're not a slave, you're not in physical chains right now. But metaphorically, the concept of what one is, you could potentially be that in some area of your life. So by becoming aware of that, because most slaves don't know they're slaves, because it's just the norm, it's being average.

07:47If we want to define what a slave is, it's being average. Now that you're aware of that and what you don't want.

Nature’s Compass

07:58You don't want to be average. Simple as that. And you're aware of all of the many negative ramifications that come along with that. Now we can start moving in a better direction, because you need to move away from something in order to move towards something.

08:09So I'll start this with another sentence to help frame what we're going to talk about. The greatest mistake is not making mistakes. Because the thing is you're different. You're aware of this, you're observant, maybe a bit quiet, afraid to speak your mind because they won't listen anyway.

08:19But that silence is killing you. You tried to fit in. You tried to trust others with your future. You tried to demonize money, success, and the rest because people told you that you don't need it to live a good life, but you need to build because that's how you contribute to others.

08:40Connect to something greater than yourself, and embark on a unique journey that brings an end to robotic living. Because you have the money to remove your dependency from that robotic living. We'll talk about this in another video, and I've talked about it in past videos, but money wasn't a necessity to go out and explore and discover new things.

08:49In the past. It still isn't in many regards today, but it is a multiplier. It is a catalyst for being able to discover, build, explore, make mistakes, connect to something bigger than yourself, contribute to others. Money is simply a piece of paper.

09:12It has the meaning that you assign to it. And many people who assign this negative thing because they lack an understanding or awareness of how the world works. Then again, they become the s-word to that thing. A good way to test whether or not you are an s-word to money is when I mention money, or that it can be good.

09:35Do you have a reaction to it? Why does a word like money have so much control over your mind? But the thing with all of this is that you're still looking for that one true path. And I'm here to tell you that there isn't one. If there was, we would have found it by now and everyone would be rich, happy, and healthy.

09:47But that's not how reality works. Things will never, always be happy. Why? Because happy doesn't make sense without sad. A hand doesn't exist without an arm. The physical, biological, mental and spiritual planes all contain this pattern. One thing cannot exist without the other.

10:08When you go on vacation for, say, 2 to 3 weeks, eventually it becomes normal to you. It starts to become boring. It starts to become everyday life. You aren't discovering anything new. You go to the vacation and you get all this dopamine because you're like, wow, this is a new place.

10:17All that's beautiful. But then once you're there for three weeks, it's just like if you were back home, but now you don't have anything to do. You don't have any work or, business or purpose or project to focus on because you're on vacation.

10:34And so now when it gets normal, you just want to go back to work, you want to go back to your normal life. You want to do something, anything that allows you to explore and discover. Since you're on vacation and it's become normal, you miss out on that.

10:45And so now you want to go home. But since you've already tapped that out of the vacation, now you want to go home so you can experience something relatively new. But then if you don't focus, you're going to be searching for that discovery and exploration that your mind craves inside of your phone or on social media, or by scrolling, or with video games, or with Netflix at night, or any of this other, novelty that you can find at the click of a button and get that short term dopamine hit that slowly makes it so you stay the same.

11:23You feel like you're discovering things, but you stay the same. And if you understand entropy, you understand that you weren't staying the same. You are slowly decaying into chaos. All of this is leading up to say one thing you aren't where you want to be because you're afraid of making mistakes.

11:32And I cannot express that enough. If there were one single sentence from which to orient your life, it would be that mistakes are nature's compass. If happiness can't exist without sadness, success can't exist without failure. It's a universal law, a pattern of reality, a phenomenon that has been around since the first sign of life.

11:51Because something can exist without nothing. You can make mistakes on the conventional path, schools and jobs, but you are still working toward the narrow goal. The mistakes don't lead toward a new, better path. They simply lead you to feeling sorry for yourself.

12:10When you decide to be free and reject the goals assigned to you at birth that made you think small and trapped you in this negative bubble of thoughts, your mistakes are your light in the dark, but you don't know what you want. That's the problem.

12:17You don't realize that you will never know what you want. It's in the future. It doesn't exist. It's imagining. Every life changes. What you want now could and will absolutely be different tomorrow, the next day, in the next decade. But you'll never embark on this process of refinement and purification because you can't seem to allow yourself to fail.

12:42Failure and mistakes are the process of refinement and purification of your character. What you want out of life becomes more clear when you realize what you don't want out of life, and work in the other direction. Since you haven't made any mistakes on your own path, it's obvious why you don't know what you want out of life.

13:00So my advice is to do what you want without permission from someone else. That's agency. Go to the party, get drunk, start the business. Scroll on your phone all night, do whatever your little heart desires. Seriously. Because denying those desires is only going to bind you to them.

13:16But here's the catch you need to be able to realize when those things are a mistake. Getting drunk every night isn't a mistake. If you don't have meaningful responsibilities to wake up to every morning, it's not hurting your ability to achieve the goal.

13:31Managing parties and alcohol or other vices becomes a lot easier when it impacts something more important than parties and alcohol. Since something like your schooling and jobs aren't more important than those things, then you don't care to go out, get drunk, get messed up, come back in the morning, feel like crap, go to the job because you don't care how you perform on that thing.

13:55If you do that, then you are not happy in your job because it's not important to you. I don't care how much you justify to yourself of, oh, it's I just like the structure of the job or I like this. If you're doing all of these things around the job that impact your performance at the job, I'm assuming that you don't have anything to pour energy into.

14:16And per psychology, per almost any text you could read on this topic, you are not fulfilled because you haven't invested into something. You haven't poured your heart and soul into something so that it becomes your purpose so that you are passionate about it, so that you don't want to do this.

14:37Partying, drinking, playing video games, ruining your health because you don't want to impact your performance on that one thing. Because that's the source of your fulfillment and happiness. You need your own goals to pursue, not ones that were assigned to you.

14:51If you don't create a purpose, you will be assigned one, and you can only create those goals and not be susceptible to other goals or purposes that are trying to be assigned to you by society at every waking second, you need to get absolutely fed up with where you are and reject everything that you thought was true.

15:09You need to start from scratch. To break things down even further,

How To Make The Greatest Comeback Of Your Life

15:17we now need to talk about how to make the greatest comeback of your life, because you understand how to get what you want. If you missed it in that last section, how to figure out what you want. It's trial and error. That's it. I could go in and I could explain how that works in multiple different examples and situations in your life, but it's trial and error.

15:36You make mistakes because mistakes give you direction. And if you latch on to this goal, in this path, in this prescription that someone else created for you, you think you're going to get the same results as them, but you're probably not going to.

15:48A lot of the times you may if those results are mediocre and easy to acquire and everyone else in society is doing them like getting a job, getting a degree, getting everything else. But then it's not fulfilling because everything, everyone else is doing it.

15:56You're not unique, so you understand how to pave the way. You're just afraid to start and go into the unknown. So let's wrap this up and start this next section with a quote from Krishnamurti. Tradition becomes our security, and when the mind is secure, it is in decay.

16:11Entropy. When it's secure, when it's stable, when you think you're just staying the same or you're just chillin, you're not. You're in decay and it's very slow. So it's like going on the vacation. You don't really notice it becoming normal, and then it becomes normal and you're like, Holy crap, I'm in a much more terrible situation than I was, and it's so much harder to dig out once you let that go for too long.

16:40Life is tricky in that way, where you dig yourself into this hole and you don't even realize it. And when you do realize it, it becomes very difficult to get out. You cannot make discoveries in the known. It just doesn't make sense. Please realize that you absolutely cannot live a full, open and non robotic life if you operate by what your parents and teachers planted in your head.

17:03Sure, you can be happy at times like all people are, but being deeply fulfilled is a different story. Most people have an experience that feeling because it's unknown to them, so they don't bother searching for it and instead project their insecurities by telling you how fulfilled they are working as a robot.

17:19Would the lines of code are engraved on their brain and again, you can't perceive what is a mistake if you don't have a goal that allows you to. So living the life you live now is perfectly fine to you. Until you finally set and cultivate a new goal, you develop a reason behind it.

17:31You understand what you don't want out of life. Set the goal and now you have a frame from which to operate from so that you can fix the mistakes in your lifestyle. You must launch into the unknown. Feel as if you are drowning and learn how to swim.

17:48That is how you learn anything. And that is why most people learn nothing. They would rather jump off the deep end, complain about how hard it is, as if it were supposed to be any other way, or as if something that is hard, is bad or negative rather than reality itself, and then blame anyone but themselves for their inability to do anything without it being given to them.

18:03So what do you do? How do you learn? How do you make the greatest comeback of your life?

Get Mad At Where You Are

18:20The first step is to get mad at where you are, because the best periods of my life, as I've said before, came after getting absolutely fed up with the lack of progress that I was making. I didn't care what I did, I just had to do something.

18:33I would try anything to get out of that situation. Most people would call that desperation, but I would call it a mind that's hungry to learn, grow and evolve to the next level. The goal isn't to immediately find one thing that eases your pain after jumping into the unknown.

18:49The goal is to accept a radical shift in how you live. You must realize that all of your actions compounded to where you are right now. And if you continue doing those things, you will remain where you are. The only real change is behavior change.

19:03So say goodbye to almost everything you hold on to so tightly right now that you think aren't that bad. You clearly can't manage them well. You must become disgusted with where you are. You must fabricate a mental rock bottom. Write down everything you don't want in life the stupid mind, the pudgy body, the sluggish energy, the dead end relationships reject them.

19:23You're allowed to be extremely negative, as negative energy is much more potent than positive. But you must channel it toward forging a new identity. I'm not telling you to make simple habit changes or take the soft approach to change. I'm telling you to completely flip the switch overnight.

19:40Because if you do this correctly, if you gain absolute awareness on what you don't want out of life, then this isn't a difficult process. What I mean by that is if you gain absolute awareness of what you don't want in life, then you will never do those things again.

19:58If you want to do those things again, you do not have absolute awareness of where that will lead you in life. You don't understand the pain and the stupidity of doing those things yet. And when you do that, you won't want to do anything other than the opposite of that thing.

Disappear For 3 Months

20:20When you reach that point through contemplation and really understanding what you don't want in life, you disappear for three months minimum. In other words, you cut off all of the anchors that are holding you in the situation that you're in.

20:29Because with this, if you don't have a vision, you are lost. The negative energy has nowhere to go, so it gets trapped and wreaks havoc in your mind. Psychic entropy. If you don't have a meaningful path, system or goal to invest that energy into, you decay.

20:43But a vision doesn't start out clear. It starts as an educated guess. You won't be confident in it. I think I want to try this business. I think I want to read this book and that's all it takes to begin reprograming your mind in a positive direction by redirecting energy toward a better life.

21:05Now, if you want to map these things out, you want to write down what you don't want out of life, what you want out of life, and then be able to break it down into weekly goals and priority tasks on what you're supposed to do. There's if you join the newsletter, there is a document.

21:19I'll actually just link the document as well that you can download to duplicate to cortex and fill it out. Now that you're brutally aware of what you don't want, laser in on what you think you want. Fix your physical diet. Fix your mental diet.

21:32Go on more walks. Learn a new skill. Go to the gym. Talk to someone new. Today. You're in the unknown, for Christ's sake. Yes, it's going to be a bit uncomfortable, but that doesn't take away from the fact that a mediocre life is the most uncomfortable thing in the world.

21:46Once you realize that, truly realize it. Everything else doesn't seem so bad. Give yourself three months, not two weeks. You need enough time to invest the right amount of energy to the point of seeing that thing as important, like a song you don't like.

22:00But when you listen to it enough, it becomes your favorite song. The gym isn't going to be fun the first time. The skill is going to be difficult the first time, but as your skill begins to match the challenge of the situation, you begin to find the game extremely addicting to the point where it's all you want to do.

22:15When many people learn something new, especially when they haven't been in school for a long time, the first thing they say is usually, oh, this is overwhelming, or this is really hard. Yeah it is. You're learning something. It's something that you don't know.

22:23It's in the unknown. It's it's scary. It's dark. You don't know what's going on. Overwhelm and struggle and mistakes and all of these other things are signals that you're moving in the right direction. It's a signal that you're moving toward a better life and not staying in the comfortable life.

22:39If it were comfortable, it wouldn't be worth doing. It wouldn't be a challenge. It wouldn't push you to grow.

If It’s Wasn’t A Mistake, You Didn’t Learn A Thing

22:57So that leads us into our last point to tie everything together. If it wasn't a mistake, you didn't learn a thing. Because again, the best decisions of my life are the ones that most people think were stupid. And it's actually quite fun because I can give myself permission to do these stupid things and discover so much in the process.

23:15A lot of people hold themselves back from doing these stupid things, which is smart for many people. If they can't pull through or they're ruining their lives doing it. But just be smart about these things. The most massive mistakes in my life are the ones that have led to the most growth.

23:28In 2018, I maxed out my first credit card to try to make a business work. In 2019, I got rid of everything I owned, except for a bag of clothes and my laptop, and flew to a different country. In 2020, I signed a lease on an apartment that was to what I could afford, and this forced me to make my business work.

23:38The catch here is that these don't start as mistakes. They start as risks. The payoff of that risk is the mistake. Because if that risk only led to success, you wouldn't learn a thing and you wouldn't be able to replicate it. So am I telling you to do something that's absolutely stupid and you know you shouldn't do?

23:57No. You need at least a shred of self-belief that you think you can make it work. You're not just going and doubling your rent because it'll somehow magically again, you're searching for the quick fix. If you have the quick fix mindset and you think, oh yeah, if I just go double my rent, then I'll make ten times more in my business.

24:18No, you have to understand the process of putting yourself in a stressful situation. It has to be calculated to the point where you know that you don't have any other option but success. So why does this work? Why does this work? If you have things right and you aren't just doing it for the quick fix?

24:37Reason one is that goldfish grow to fit the tank you put them in, but if you keep them in a small pool, they never grow. The same is true for your mind. Reason number two is Parkinson's Law. Work expands so as to fill the time allotted for completion.

24:51But when you launch yourself into the unknown, you threaten your survival and you have less time to become a success. Reason number three is the theme of going full circle. So imagine a straight line with black on one end and white on the other end, blended in between with a gradient.

25:01So it's a black to white gradient on the line. Now if you connect the two ends so it forms a circle, there's an instant flip from black to white, a joke that so unfunny that it becomes funny. Someone who is so dumb they become insightful. Someone who is in so much pain that they have no option but to find enjoyment.

25:20This is a universal pattern. Leverage it, and there's a psychology behind it by setting a challenging goal that deep down you know you can achieve, you create a real deadline, which eliminates distractions. It leverages your survival instincts to quickly learn what's necessary to stay alive.

25:36So your mind focuses on only the important things. So what do you do one feel into your situation? Become brutally aware of the life you don't want to live. Let your mind simmer with negativity to launch into the unknown. Make us stupid decision.

25:51Force yourself to pursue the dream you've been putting off. Sink or swim and understand that you can learn how to swim. Three is learn and build like a mad scientist. Perform emotional alchemy with the stress, pain, and overwhelm. Channel everything into that one meaningful goal.

26:06Study and learn. While your mind is primed to store all relevant information, you'll make it through. Thank you for watching! Like subscribe links in the description. If you want to learn a high income skill like digital writing, or if you just want a starting point for all of these things.

26:28But if you grab a course or you grab my book, or you grab cortex or whatever it is, build the project, start building the project, supplement with education. Don't just go through the course and then forget about it like everyone does. That's it.

26:36Thank you for watching. Bye.