how to actually be disciplined (consistently)

The Discipline Matrix: How to Be More Disciplined Than 95% of People

00:00All right. Hello and welcome to this training. As you can see from the title, what we're going to be covering today is the Discipline Matrix. And as you can see from the overview, what we're going to be talking about more specifically is first unbreakable.

00:12Well delayed gratification consistency mechanics systems and controls. The review and your action items for the day or the next few days. Now before we begin, if you like these kinds of videos, make sure to hit the subscribe button if you want to work with me personally, make sure to hit the second link in the description and book a call.

00:27And if you want this training along with this document, make sure to join the free community from the first link in the description. With that being said, let's talk about unbreakable.

Unbreakable Will: The Foundation of Discipline

00:40Well, now nothing in life really bends reality faster than an unbreakable will. It is the raw material out of which discipline, ambition and greatness are really created for them. So when you decide that your will cannot be broken, you basically start negotiating with weakness.

00:57You start bargaining with mediocrity, and you start moving like a force of nature. Without this foundation, every tactic and system will collapse the moment temptation or fatigue creeps in. So it doesn't matter how well your plans are drawn without will and willpower, they rot.

01:12The second resistance really arrives. So willpower is similar to discipline. It's not something you either have or you don't. It is created through friction, through thousands of tiny decisions where comfort whispers one thing and you deliberately choose the harder alternative.

01:32So every time you take the path of resistance, your resolve thickens. And every time you default to the easy way your resolve sends. And this is why every decision in your life really counts far more than you actually might think. It's not the big choices that really define your strength and your willpower and your discipline is the countless invisible ones that no one else even sees.

01:54So once you understand that, resolve, willpower, discipline, whatever you want to call it is not really an abstract gift, but a skill that's built daily. The next realization is that you can deliberately strengthen it by putting yourself in controlled trials.

02:09No, life is constantly handing you small tests, but most people really run from them. The coffee you crave. When you told yourself you'd cut caffeine, or the snooze button that tempts you after a late night, or the easy excuse to skip a workout.

02:25These moments are not inconveniences. They are invitations to create discipline, to create willpower. If you treat them as such, every day really becomes a training ground and every note becomes a repetition. In the gym of discipline, each test is really a fork in the road, one path for each weakness, which is usually the easy choice.

02:47The other builds armor, which is usually the harder choice. Most people underestimate how often these forks really show up, which is why they remain fragile without even realizing it. So strength is built in layers. Saying no once might feel small, but if you stack a thousand of those small decisions and small denials, you've constructed a fortress around your mind.

The Fork in the Road: Everyday Choices That Build Strength

03:09And that fortress is what is what will keep you steady when storms inevitably arrive. So the first step is simply noticing when you're at the fork. Most people live blind and they're pulled by craving like a puppet on strings. Now, if you don't want to be this person, well, you need to bring more awareness to the moment.

03:28Awareness, because those strings and basically gives you the option to stand firm. Now, willpower must not just show up when life is calm. The real proof is when chaos hits death in the family, a breakup, a financial collapse. Now, I'm not telling you to not process your emotions of these things happen, but what I am saying is that you can not let them crumble you completely.

03:52Most people crumble here, but if you're willing and discipline and resolve has been basically trained daily, you do not break. You adapt and continue to of discipline is and will is what separates someone who holds discipline only in good seasons versus someone who stays unmoved regardless of circumstance.

04:10A fragile willpower bends with the weather. An unbreakable will. Unbreakable discipline ignores it. And so this means that the small trials cannot be skipped because they are your training runs for the harder tests to come. If you can stand firm when everything shakes around you, people begin to see you as immortal, immovable, and eventually you begin to see yourself as a moveable tomb, which is the more important part.

04:41But to keep continuity alive, you really need a vision that makes discipline worth it. Otherwise, the weight of sacrifice will crush you before you reap the rewards.

Vision and Purpose: The Fuel Behind Unbreakable Discipline

04:50That's where the deeper drive comes into play. No one maintains iron will just for the sake of it. There has to be some kind of a vision or identity on the other side that is actually worth planning for. That is actually worth fighting for and remaining disciplined for.

05:03This is why people can endure prison camps, grueling training, or years of acute obscurity chasing mastery. They're fueled by something larger than momentary comfort. If your vision is weak, your will collapses. If your vision is compelling, your will becomes untouchable.

05:22So when discipline is tied to who you are instead of what you do, it really becomes automatic. For example, saying I am the type of person who doesn't break if you repeat that sentence, if you live that sentence, and if you actually believe that sentence will basically hardwire as well into your nervous system.

05:35Purpose gives you a reason to eat the pain. If you can clearly see the life your discipline unlocks, then the suffering becomes not only bearable, but necessary. It becomes the path itself. And so vision grows stronger the more vividly you picture it.

05:53If you can see it, feel it and live in it mentally, you'll endure whatever it takes to make it physical. And so unbreakable. Will is not actually free. Unbreakable discipline is not free. It demands you sacrifice a lot. It demands you sacrifice comfort.

06:06It demands you sacrifice social approval, and sometimes even some relationships. Now I know there's a lot of people that would say, you know, don't sacrifice your relationships.

The Price of Discipline: Sacrifice, Solitude, and Self-Mastery

06:21Being around people is the best thing ever. Come, we're not talking about you. We're talking about the people that actually want to get to a level they haven't been before. Sometimes that will require sacrificing certain relationships. I'm sorry to say people will not.

06:37Some people will not understand you. They will tell you to relax. They will tell you to live a little and living a little will be their version of living a little. So, to they'll tell you to stop being so extreme this term is required. If you are not willing to really sacrifice, you're not really willing to build the life you actually want, and you're actually not willing to build discipline.

07:03The cost is steep. That's the point. But the reward is immortality in the memory of the people who matter and domination in your own lifetime. So sometimes you will walk alone. Few really have the stomach to take the road. You might get on.

07:16And that isolation, if you let it, can become fuel that hardens you rather than weakens you. So sacrifice clears the fog. When you stop indulging every craving, you begin to see what really matters. And life simplifies in a way that most people will never know.

07:39So the strange irony is that those who once mocked your extremity will later bow to it, because deep down, everyone respects what they cannot do or have themselves. And so as you start living in this clarity, you realize that willpower alone will not be enough.

07:52It has to be reinforced with the ability to push gratification

Delayed Gratification: The Real Secret to Long-Term Success

07:59further and further into the future, until what you're chasing is worth more than anything you could have right now. That's the next level of power. So let's talk about delayed gratification. Now, at the core of every extraordinary life prize, the ability to delay gratification, the single trait has been proven again and again to predict long term success better than intelligence, talent or luck.

08:26If you can consistently resist what feels good right now, what feels good in the moment for the sake of what feels greater down the line work what will be greater down the line? You separate yourself from the majority of people who basically live and die as slaves to today, as slaves to impulse delayed gratification is what transforms raw willpower into leverage that compounds over years.

08:47Long term thinking is one of the best traits you can actually acquire. The difficult truth is that most people are addicted to immediacy. They crave quick hits of dopamine, quick wins, quick validation, quick comfort, quick everything but anything worth having like strength, wealth, love, mastery, all of them and more.

09:11Take time, patience isn't passive. It's an active decision to hold your ground while the reward is still invisible. When you cultivate patience, you learn to enjoy the grind for its own sake instead of clinging to the finish line. And yet, patience without structure collapses into procrastination.

09:25That's why this principle must be sharpened into systems that actually train you to wait. So delayed gratification can be built like a muscle. Small acts of resistance right now stacking to greater control over time. You don't need to start with some grand big gestures like,

Building Patience and Self-Control: Daily Training Methods

09:46fasting for days or working, in silence for a month. You begin with simple training exercises that basically stretch your tolerance for waiting. For example, food. With food, you can skip dessert even when it's right in front of you, or resist the urge to snack late at night or or basically not eat the chocolate that you want it, that you think you want to eat or not eat.

10:06That extra portion every meal basically becomes an arena to practice patience. When it comes to money, you can hold off on buying something you want until 30 days have passed. If you still want it after that, then fine. Most times the desire will die on its own with, tech and technology in your phone, you can delay checking your phone notifications, for example, or leave messages unopened on purpose until you finish the work that matters.

10:38Technology is the perfect place to actually practice these things because, in general, your phone, your computer more so your phone is engineered to really hijack your impulses and hijack your attention. Now, the real benefit of this exercise isn't just the act itself.

10:53It's the signal you send to your brain that you're actually in charge, not your cravings. Every time you delay gratification, you basically hardwire control into your nervous system, and eventually you become the type of person who doesn't even need to fight impulses because they no longer carry weight against your identity.

11:08Each victory makes you proud of yourself in a way that external rewards never can, and that pride is fuel that carries you further. And the more you prove that you can delay gratification, the less anything can actually control you. You become untouchable by temptation because you've actually mastered the art of waiting.

11:30Now, once you've tested that kind of freedom, you start realizing that delayed gratification isn't just about resisting impulses. It's more so about directing energy towards the future. Now, delayed gratification is really just the art of investment applied to every area of your life.

11:44You treat basically what feels good now for what feels incredible. Later, when you save money instead of spending it, you're investing when you lift weights instead of staying on the couch, you're investing. When you study while everyone else is partying, you're investing.

11:59The entire principle of compounding returns comes alive through this practice. No money, for example, compounds when you delay unnecessary consumption. The longer you hold, the more power your, the more powerful your position becomes. Strength compounds when you push through pain.

12:16Now for vitality later. Every rep you endure today can basically. You know I'm exaggerating here, but can basically by years of energy tomorrow. Now, trust compounds when you choose honesty and loyalty, even when shortcuts like being dishonest and lying might offer easier gains in the moment.

12:33The challenge with delayed gratification is that the reward is always invisible in the beginning, and most people quit because they can't see those results fast enough because they're addicted to immediacy. This is why vision matters. You need to vividly imagine the payoff while you're still grinding.

12:54Without vision, patients feels like suffering with vision. Patience feels like building and so as vision expands, something deeper starts to click. You realize that delay isn't just about waiting, but more so about willingly sacrificing pieces of comfort.

13:05Now to feed something larger later. That sacrifice isn't punishment, it's the highest form of power. Now, once you're done with that, you'll need to be consistent. And so let's talk about consistency mechanics. The real power of discipline doesn't come from one heroic, burst of effort.

Consistency Mechanics: Making Discipline Automatic

13:28It really comes from the boring, repetitive, and monotonous work over and over until become until results become inevitable. Consistency is the bridge between ambition and achievement, and without it, nothing really lasts. Anyone can get motivated for a week.

13:42Few can actually sustain their momentum for years. So mastering consistency requires more than just good intentions. It demands mechanics, meaning systems, cuz practical rules that make showing up automatic instead of optional. So consistency begins with defining the minimum.

13:57You will never go below. Most people fail because they set their standards. Believe it or not, unrealistically high, then crash and then quit all together. The secret is to build a baseline that is so easy you can hit it even on your worst days.

14:12And from that baseline you can actually stack momentum. So if you want to build a writing habit, for example, you can start with one sentence a day. There's a platform, a social media platform where you can actually start doing that X or Twitter, whatever you want to call it if you go to mine.

14:25I basically written thousands of tweets at this point, and you can just go back in time and look at them that I started a few years ago. And this is my second account, the first one I closed down. Now, Twitter is a perfect platform to actually practice just writing one sentence of them of something and actually expressing your thoughts with clarity and precision and in a concise manner.

14:54So if you want to exercise, you can also commit to five minutes. Now what that means is you can take a five minute walk. You can literally jump rope for five minutes. You can, do pushups for five minutes. It doesn't matter. The floor is what makes the ceiling possible.

15:05So a small baseline basically kills the excuse of I don't have time. Once the action is automatic, you basically expand it naturally. But baselines alone aren't enough to make consistency automatic. You need triggers that remind you to act now.

15:22Habits thrive on cues. A cue is simply something that tells your brain. Now it's time to do this. Without cues. Habits live in memory, and memory is not that reliable. With cues, habits lock into place like reflexes. So there are different types of cues.

15:39Here are three. The first one is environmental. This can be something like placing your gym shoes next to your bed, or putting a notebook on your desk, basically letting your environment signal the action before your brain has a chance to resist.

15:53The second one is time based, meaning doing the same thing at the same hour every day. Now, this kind of routine can literally program your biology, because eventually your body expects the activity and the resistance slowly disappears. The third one is emotional, and emotions can be cues to actions.

16:07Believe it or not, even negative feelings can actually be cues. For example, stress, anger, or boredom can become triggers positive triggers if you link them to productive responses instead of destructive ones. So for me, anytime I feel that feeling of quote unquote boredom, I write or I read, that's the basically the connection I've made.

16:32Now, once those cues are fire, friction must be removed so that taking action actually feels natural. So your consistency is bound to fail when the path to action is actually cluttered. Every point of resistance, like finding your shoes, or opening apps or preparing your tools, all of these and similar ones become an excuse.

16:46So essentially, to sustain your effort, you need to strip away friction until the action is almost impossible not to do so. For example, you can lay out your clothes the night before, or automate your payments or batch prepare your meals, and so on.

17:01The less you think, the more you'll be able to do so. Once you've removed friction from the actions you actually want to take, you should invert the process and basically add friction to the behaviors you want to eliminate. So for example, deleting social apps or moving junk food out of the house or blocking certain websites.

17:22Basically, lock your distractions behind a ton of effort. Now with friction, the next piece is rhythm.

Accountability and Feedback Loops: Staying on Track

17:29A mechanic is useless without tempo, so consistency works best when it follows predictable patterns. Humans are rhythmic creatures, and so you need to build cycles of effort and rest that your body can actually anticipate. Rhythm makes work less about discipline and more about flow.

17:42Now there are many ways to do this. So here are a few examples. For example, every day you can anchor yourself with morning and evening routines. Now this set point will basically protect your consistency in more chaotic days. Now, when it comes down to your week, you can assign focus themes to your days.

18:02For example, you do sales calls on Monday, deep work on Tuesday, content creation on Wednesday, etc. so that your decisions are already made and recognize that some seasons will require harder pushes and others will require lighter maintenance.

18:17Rhythm means adapting so that you don't break and can continue for longer. Now with rhythm set, accountability becomes the reinforcement that makes sure nothing slips between the cracks. So consistency grows stronger when it's not just you watching.

18:32Accountability can be external or internal, but the principle is always the same. Pressure increases performance when it comes to external accountability. A coach, a partner, or a peer group will basically raise the standard because, you know, someone will notice if you slack when it comes to internal accountability, that can be anything like journaling, tracking, and creating self reports.

18:50Now these will keep you honest even when no one else is watching. The act of recording keeps the loop alive. Now the strongest accountability is the hybrid. Basically having both external and internal accountability with accountability only really sticks when it's paired with rewards.

19:11That proof progress is real. So the brain loves progress, but if you don't give it proof, it will lose interest. So consistency thrives when you create feedback loops that show the reward of sticking to the process. one way to do that is to track your streaks, cross off days, watch the chain grow until you basically refuse to break it along with that, you can give yourself small rewards after milestones.

19:30Now, this doesn't mean destroying your progress with destructive habits, but rather reinforcing it with experiences that signal growth. Very easy example for this is let's say you're losing weight and you've reached the milestone on your weight loss journey.

19:45Instead of binging and completely destroying your progress. Now that it's really possible, depends on how much you've actually lost. But a lot of the times people can actually completely destroy the progress they've made by binging as a cheat day, which is supposedly a reward for them sticking to the diet.

20:06Rather than doing that, maybe have a cheat meal and one that won't really take you outside of your diet, but maybe will bump your calories a little bit and will make you feel like, okay, I've just achieved a milestone and I gave myself a reward.

20:21And remember to pause and feel pride in the act itself, because pride is the most sustainable reward of all. Now the final mechanic is resilience because even with Q's rhythm and rewards, life will throw days at you when the system kind of crumbles.

20:35And so true consistency isn't about never missing, it's about never letting misses multiply. Now I have a video on this on the channel, so make sure you go watch it. Consistency means always returning to the thing. Everyone falls off. The winners reset fast without guilt or judgment and just come back to it.

20:52If you missed one workout, for example, the only rule is don't miss the next so you don't focus on not missing the first one. You focus on not missing the second one. Consistency is really about recovery speed. So one thing you could do is to adopt the never twice standard.

21:05Slipping once is pretty human too. Slips are the beginning of a new pattern, so train yourself to bounce back immediately. Not after guilt, not after shaming yourself, but after the very next chance. Now. Once these mechanics are installed, discipline stops being about force and really starts being about inevitability.

21:27And inevitability is what allows you to build bigger control systems that govern not just habits, but your entire life. So let's talk about systems and controls Discipline eventually outgrows sheer willpower and even consistent habits to scale beyond your own limited energy.

Systems and Controls: Automating Success

21:44You really need systems and controls. A system is a structure that produces results automatically. Controls are basically the mechanisms inside it that keep everything on track. They keep the system on track. Without them, discipline is fragile and dependent on mood and motivation.

21:56With them, discipline becomes more self-sustaining, like a machine that basically runs whether you feel like it or not. And this is where you really stop managing your self like an amateur and actually start operating like a professional. So you need to think of your life as a machine.

22:15Every machine has inputs, outputs and feedback loops that make sure everything is working correctly. So with that in mind, systems and controls are the frameworks that stabilize the machine. You decide what goes in, how it gets processed, and what comes out.

22:29Most people live without a framework, which means their results are always pretty random. But when you install one, results become very predictable. So inputs are about things like what you consume, who you talk to, what you allow into your mind.

22:44These are the raw materials of your system. Garbage in, garbage out. Processes are about the way you work. The rituals you follow, the methods you repeat. This is the engine that essentially transforms your inputs into outputs. No outputs, on the other hand, are about your results.

22:57No, results aren't accidents. They're the inevitable product of what's upstream. So you need to track them ruthlessly so you know if the system is actually producing the outcome, you want it in the first place. Now, once you understand the framework, you can start building controls to make sure it doesn't actually drift.

23:15So a system without controls eventually collapses. And so controls are essentially the checkpoints that catch you when you're when you start slipping, they keep the machine honest. If you try to run everything on memory and willpower, you'll fail with controls.

23:27Failure gets caught before it snowballs. So tracking metrics becomes non-negotiable. If you're not measuring your guessing, and if you're guessing, your results are going to be random. Whether it's calories, sales costs, workouts, or your hours worked, tracking tells you the actual truth.

23:47Now, audits are another form of control. Having daily, weekly, or monthly reviews will help you recalibrate. No system runs perfectly forever, so audits will keep you aligned by forcing reflection and adjustment often enough. Now, another important point here is to build automatic responses.

24:03Or in other words, if then triggers when certain thresholds are hit for example, if expenses go above a set number, you'll cut your spending. If your sleep time goes below a set number of hours, you adjust your workload. Basically if then triggers.

24:19If this happens, then I do this. So with controls in place, you must then design environments that actually keep the system frictionless. So no system will survive if your environment is basically sabotaging it all the time. So even the best system will collapse in the wrong environment.

24:38Your surroundings act as either accelerators or anchors. You need controls baked into the places you live and work, so make your environment fit for you instead of against you. So one way to do that is organize your workspace so that focus is the default.

24:52Your main tool should be easily when within reach, and distractions should be out of sight. Every detail is a lever. Now when it comes down to your home environment, for example, it should reflect your priorities. So if you want to eat clean, fill the fridge with clean food.

25:10If you want to read more, put the book. Put books within reach everywhere you actually relax. So it sounds like common sense, but a lot of the people miss this. So in your digital space, your phone and your apps need the same treatment. Disable notifications, delete distractions, and make your digital world reflect your discipline and your priorities.

25:27Now your environment basically sets the stage, but rituals will keep the play running. So a system basically thrives on repeatable actions. Rituals are the glue that hold everything together. They're not only a reminder to take action, but they also reduce decision fatigue so that the system basically runs on autopilot.

25:45So in the morning, start with anchor rituals like hydration or planning or training or journaling. These habits will basically get your system in motion in the middle of the day. You can build reset rituals like short walks or stretching or deep breathing, because this will prevent burnout and keep your focus sharp for a few more hours into the day and into the later part of the day.

26:08Now, in the evening, you can end your day with closing and decompressing rituals like reviewing your day and in your journal, or preparing for tomorrow and unplugging. And this will basically reset you for the next cycle and will make tomorrow easier to get into motion.

26:28So with that said, rituals basically make systems automatic, but accountability makes them unbreakable. So one way to do that is to build accountability controls into your system. So you're never really relying on yourself. Even the strongest people will slip when no one's watching.

26:41The best systems anticipate that weakness and correct it with either external, internal or hybrid accountability like we talked about earlier. Now, once those accountability checks are in place, you move into optimization, tuning the system so it doesn't just work but works at peak efficiency.

26:57So a strong system is never static. It should adapt as you grow. Optimization means tweaking levers for better results with less effort without breaking the machine. So every week, ask what? Ask yourself what worked, what failed, and what can be improved, and actually write these things down in your journal.

27:18Now systems can become also overwhelming and reach a point of diminishing returns. If you bloat them. And so if a step doesn't add value, if a habit doesn't add value, don't add it. The tighter and leaner the machine, the stronger it will be.

27:30I see so many people just adding habits on top of habits every single day, and their morning routine is like five hours long. Then they wonder why they're not productive, and the only reason they're adding all of these habits is because such and such influencers said to do that don't like actually think about what you what you value and what would be valuable for you at this stage of your life in this season.

27:51And just do that. Consistency is better than just adding a bunch of random habits glued together, because people said so. Now when you hit the two plateaus, try to upgrade your tools, strategies, or methods. For a system to become increasingly scalable, you need to be willing to evolve them.

28:10Now, when your system is optimized, the next step is integration, making sure every part of your life feeds the others instead of competing with them. So the best systems aren't siloed health, wealth, relationships, and personal growth. They all connect.

28:25When you design systems that reinforce each other, discipline stops feeling like juggling and starts feeling like momentum. So you can use habits in one area to basically fuel another.

Integration: Health, Wealth, Love, and Self Working as One

28:37Now it's pretty common sense, but training and eating clean will increase your energy. Now, if you have more energy, you have more energy to work on your business. From there, your business will probably be more successful and your business success will then sharpen your confidence in other areas of your life, like relationships and so on.

28:51It becomes a self-improving cycle. So align your goals so that they support not contradict each other. If your health goals clash with work with your work goals, for example, one will sabotage the other. Integration removes this conflict. So when systems are integrated, your life feels like one unified engine instead of fragmented pieces.

29:11Now your body is the first one or the first system that basically needs control, because everything else really depends on it. Without health controls, no amount of ambition can really survive. So you need to build systems that automate your energy regeneration, your recovery, and your physical growth so that you're not constantly guessing or negotiating with yourself.

29:33Now, when it comes to nutrition, for example, you can create decide your meals. Pick 3 to 5 staple options, for example, for breakfast, lunch and dinner. If you eat breakfast and lunch or if you eat lunch or dinner and rotate them. another thing you could do is automating your grocery delivery or blocking one day per week to actually prepare healthy meals ahead of time.

30:00The control here is removing the question what should I eat so you never slip into unhealthy choices. What you could also do is basically get a subscription for one of these healthy meal delivery. Services and just have your meals delivered.

30:12In the case of training, you can create a set program and stick with it for as long as possible. Don't chase novelty. Every week is also not the best way to, grow. if you're just changing your program every, every week now, if you're lifting, follow a proven progression.

30:25And if you're doing cardio, assign fixed dates and distances. Now the control is predictability. You don't decide to train. You execute on what's already scheduled. As for sleep, set your bedtimes and wake times to the same time every day and use environmental cues like them in your lights, for example, or turning off your screens after a set hour, a cold room, etc.

30:46that way you recover. You won't be left to chance. It's enforced by your controls. So for me personally, my lights have been set to turn off completely at a specific hour every evening. This creates a cue that basically tells me it's time to go to bed.

31:04They also change colors and them at a specific hour so that they don't disturb my sleep later on. Similarly, you can set your lights to turn on automatically at your wake time. This removes the negotiation of actually getting up and makes the transition seamless.

31:17Because the lights are now on, you're now awake. You might as well get up. So once your body is controlled, your energy is stabilized and your concentration is stronger. The same principles apply directly to your business or career. Money without systems bleeds away, and it doesn't matter how much you make if you can control where it goes.

31:36So systems for wealth are about capturing income, allocating it and then protecting it. So when it comes to your business, you can set up automated systems to collect money. This includes sales by clients, payment processors and invoices. Now this the sounds common sense.

31:50And to the more advanced people out there. Most of them already have this set up. But the idea here is to make money flow to you smoothly without any friction. You should also create clear rules for when and how you actually follow up with clients.

32:02When the system handles this for you, there's no room for hesitation or second guessing. Now. As for expenses, create spending limits for different categories in your life and decide on fixed percentages for essentials like living costs as well as investing, saving, or other spending.

32:23The idea is to set up automatic distribution so that money gets allocated to these categories. Before you even see it. This way, you're not really tempted to spend what should be saved or invested, and make sure you use some kind of dashboard or spreadsheet to monitor your revenue, profit, expenses, and savings every week, or just your income and expenses.

32:40The numbers will tell you the truth about your financial situation, and when you track consistently, you're you're going to be forced to basically confront reality, which means you'll catch any problems before they actually spiral out of control.

32:53Now, with money stabilized, your focus turns towards relationships. And here systems are just as important, though most never really think to apply them. Discipline without connection collapses into loneliness, so systems and relationships basically keep them alive.

33:13Even when you're focused on bigger missions, they don't make relationships or robotic, but rather they make them reliable. Here are some examples for romantic relationships specifically. But you can basically, to a degree, apply those, with other people in your life.

33:27So, for example, you can schedule relationship rituals just like you do with work, weekly date nights, daily check ins, quarterly trips, consistency, beat, grand gestures that only come when your guilt hits you. Now, another way to do it is to actually sit down and outlined some rules for yourself, but also for your partner on how you handle conflict.

33:46For example, no insults, no going to bed angry, no stonewalling. No, I'm not saying that some of these will work for everyone, or that all of them will work for everyone. For example, I know people that actually don't believe in the know going to bed angry and it works for them.

34:04They actually would rather just go to sleep and discuss it the next day. But the idea is to set up these controls to basically set up, some rules for how you handle conflict in your relationship with that other person. Now, these controls will prevent your emotions from actually hijacking the system.

34:22So treat the relationship also like a project in a way where you can set shared goals. You can track progress together. You can review together systems keep love from drifting into your routine. Now if you tell yourself, well, I haven't been doing this because my partner isn't interested, well, you need to lead at some point.

34:41So lead with that. Do it yourself and they will most likely follow you now with health, wealth and Love Structured, the last system ties it all together yourself. The mind is the central control unit. Without systems here, everything else really collapses.

34:53Mental systems regulate your identity, focus and emotional stability as well as your mindset. So write and review your personal principles daily. For example, who you are, what you stand for, what you refuse to compromise. This is a control mechanism that hard wires and also anchors your behavior to something, to something written out, to something most likely and even better if it's physical.

35:21So if you actually have a piece of paper on which you've written these things down, you can also, as an example, run your days off a planner and break your big goals into weekly and daily targets and the most important point here is, I would say make time for reflection every week.

35:38Review what worked with failed, what lessons can be actually extracted because without these reflection controls, your experience will get wasted. Rather than create a positive feedback loop every week, every month, every year, you go through things that teach you things, teach you very valuable life lessons that you just they just disappear because you actually don't log them anywhere.

36:00And in the future, if you if you, the history sometimes repeats itself in the future when you actually experience those same things, you won't necessarily know how you handle them because you would have forgotten. If you actually log your experiences and you journal and you write these things down, you will basically have a running log of exactly how you handled certain problems in your life and how to handle them again.

36:24And so nothing will be very new to you anymore. You'll become basically unstoppable. So when these systems are designed and controls are enforced, life stops being a game of luck and every area starts feeding the others every slip gets caught, every action compounds.

36:38And from here you can finally lock discipline into a permanent upward spiral.

The Review and Next Actions: How to Lock Discipline for Life

36:47With that being said, let's go over the review. We talked about unbreakable will, delayed gratification, consistency, mechanics, systems and controls, the review, and finally your action items for the day or the next few days. First, map out the four domains of your life health, wealth, love and self.

37:03And after that, install at least one control system in each and keep it system simple but consistent, such as pre-decided meals, for example, automated savings, scheduled relationship rituals, and weekly reflection reviews. Then create boundaries that protect your discipline, remove distractions from your environment, and set set time based cues and commit to never twice resets when you actually miss something.

37:28Discipline is not about perfection, but about keeping that drift contained. And finally, implement recovery as part of your system, not outside of it. Schedule active, passive, mental, and spiritual recovery across your week so that the engine stays sustainable and treats rest like training because it is what keeps performance compounding at the end of the day, with that being said.

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38:08With that being said, thank you for being here and I'm gonna see you in the next one.