How to Grieve the Loss of a Pet | Cesar Millan & Dr. Andrew Huberman

Celebrating A Dog's Life

00:00What is your relationship to the concept of death as it relates to to dogs? And the question is very specific here. Do people say they know, they'll let you know? Yeah. The question I want to know is, is it okay to show your dog sadness or does it make the dog that's dying more anxious?

00:19With my kids, because I have two kids and you know, obviously we have a pack of dogs. They have experienced dogs passing. We always make a celebration. I always bring them to their favorite place. So I I definitely bring more the energy of happiness and I I ask my kids if you're going to cry or whatever just do it away from them otherwise you hold them [clears throat] right so I don't I want them to go back and that's why it's so good to think to believe in God because they're going back to the source so they're way better with him than with you know here on

00:49earth I did my homework right too also so I feel really good that I gave the best life uh for that particular dog right u Um and so when it's time to go they tell you they tell you they can you know it's many many signs but uh at the same time as you know when it's the day is everybody happy everybody's happy we're going to we're going to dance we're going to celebrate we're going to uh you know it's a ritual you can make a sad ritual or you can make a happy ritual you see it's time for him to depart time to go.

01:19So when I die, I want everybody to be happy. Okay? I don't want no sadness. I listen, my life is beyond what I thought, right? So I I give that same life to a dog. Same is I'm very dedicated human seven days a week. Uh uh even if I don't feel good, it doesn't matter.

01:39I go and walk that pack. I'm very committed, right? [clears throat] It's all about honor. It's all about respect. It's that's my way of showing my heart. And in my mind, I don't have one day that I I did wrong by them. So when it's time for them to go, it's time for them to go, but we're going to make happy about it because they're going back to God.

01:58That's how I see it. And you know, as you as you as you're talking about that, spirit never dies. Mhm. You know, spirit never dies. And it's an opening for me to help another soul and another soul because that's what that's why I'm here, right?

02:09I'm here uh on earth to my time can be used wisely to keep helping and that's [clears throat] what I find you know my inspiration motivation. That's it. Beautiful. Not what I expected and I'm so pleasantly surprised. I uh it challenges me to even say it cuz he's still so new.

02:29But when Strummer dies, the last uh 24 hours of his life will be a celebration with him. Yeah. Celebration. All right. Yeah. He says happy spirit. you know, sing, laugh, dance, you know, uh just happiness cuz they once you start going like this, they don't they they get worried, you know, and then the spirit lingers and you don't want it.

02:51You just wanted to go, you know, and for them to give you direction, protection. This, you know, I have a big pack on heaven. You definitely have a big pack waiting for you. When I go home, you I'm going to have the, you know, how many dogs have I saved my life, man.

03:08So you Yeah, I'm going home. I love it. You know, Earth is a beautiful home, but it's temporary. Yeah. Well, I believe this, too. You know, I've talked a bit about my faith as now is not the time, but I'm, you know, my audience knows I'm very very much in in agreement that, you know, this is this is an amazing phase of us, but it's not the only phase.

03:26And so, if people are feeling uh sad, like, you know, the number of people I know who turn to their dog for emotional support Yes. around a loss of a loved one or a breakup or loss of a judges or the world, whatever. Yeah.

How Dogs Absorb Human Energy

03:43What is your stance on that? It's bad because they're passing that energy. The dog doesn't know what happened. But I mean, obviously, they're going to help you absorb the energy, but after you did that, just take him to the beach so he can let go to the energy.

03:55Same thing when you bring a dog to a hospital, right? And the therapy dogs, they go to hospitals, you know, kids with cancer, D, depressed people, blah blah blah. That dog absorbs that energy. Okay? Just like you will and absorb people's energy, your job is to go and let it go.

04:13So every time you give bad energy as you know help people or help dogs to get rid of that energy that is not healthy for them. [clears throat] Yeah. Utilize it you know is is available. Uh but again you can also go and take a coach before you hug the dog and that way you kill that energy.

04:30[clears throat] You know, kill bad energy, just kill it. And only give good energy to your family. Give good energy to your home. It's discipline. It's easier to just to go and throw that negative energy that you just grab. It's easier. But then you spread that whole thing everywhere.

04:45Oh man, I saw in so many laboratories where the the boss, you know, brilliant scientists, I think one in particular, and they would do this like what I would call trickle down anxiety. They'd be stressed and they'd walk through the lab stressing out.

04:57Graduate school is already hard. Yeah. Especially in the if I may in the sciences. Yeah. Very very hard. Very competitive. Posttock is even more uncertain. Like you don't you don't get a degree at the end. You're investing five years of your life, you know, and for to walk around the boss walking around like making people anxious.

05:15Yeah. Terrible. The other thing that was terrible was walking around making people feel overly confident. People would do that too. So everything you're saying it's like

Serving Your Dog's Needs

05:22you could see it in these very hierarchical human relationships. But I think with dogs, we we're so I'm just going to say it. I feel like we are so selfish as a species like that these animals are here for us and just for us to give me love when I get home to console me when I'm sad to give me all the things I want.

05:42Yeah. That I would be blind to the the basic needs of that animal. It's it's really is it's as selfish in my opinion as saying, "Oh, these are animals that we work on that just serve our purposes to advance our careers or scientific understanding."

05:57And again, there's a place for that, but we have to be incredibly nuanced about where that's appropriate and where it's inappropriate. It's just a selfishness, the selfish part and the unselfish part. So, what I'm saying is don't forget, you know, to be at service before somebody's at service to you, right?

06:14So, the spirit instinct love to be at service. And then the the the love and and the mind loves to be served. So this is your selfish part of it. And this is your unselfish part of it. You see it? So you're here to serve God and you're here to serve earth.

06:29All right? So you don't forget that, right? To be at service because they skip it. So once you once you go directly to the heart and the mind, this is what I want. I want my dog to love me. Okay, fine. You just skip spirited instinct, right?

06:45Because a spirit will never bring bad energy to the heart and in instinct will never bring bad energy to the mind. You see?

Managing Your Personal Energy

06:54So, so if you remember that you are four things and and this is what you want to give to your dog, to yourself, to your house, to your family, and then you're going to be focusing on on on making sure that uh you snap out of it whatever like you do on yourself to snap out of it, right?

07:11And then and then you go bring, you know, patience, calmness, confident, love, and then you go hug the dog. Mhm. So, you also have to learn to snap yourself out of it from whatever energy you went and attract. It's it's like stepping on poop.

07:24You got to remove your your shoe before you walk into the house. Otherwise, you bring that in. So, energy is the same way. It's like poop on your feet. Bad energy is the same. You're going to spray all over the house. Absolutely. Your plants are going to die.

07:37You know, your dogs are going to be like, "Okay, this energy is is not good." So, we Right. And then your family will will get it. So you enter you're going to enter into this dark energy. [music]